I’ll just go ahead and throw down a few ideas floating as of late. Welcome to the hodgepodge of my life.
Let’s start with a previously covered topic: the Irrational Button. As discussed previously, this is the button some women hit at seemingly random moments where everything they say and do for several minutes is confusing and relating to events from hours, days or years ago. I have explained this by my view of a female’s thought process: first an annoyance happens. one knows one is annoyed, but realizes it’s nothing worth being annoyed about. so the annoyance stays private. although no one is aware of this annoyance, it has not gone away. so one would be fighting one’s self. one would then become annoyed at being annoyed, because it’s really nothing big and why can’t i just forget about it. and this process when added to the top of the constant emotional brew of a females mind could remind one of other traumatic events not voiced. and women seem to have a distinct need to simply be heard. once they are heard, then they can deal with the issue and move on. so once this annoyance-not-heard level reaches a certain point, it causes the emotional explosion known as the infamous Irrational Button. at which point a female will express all grievances and how she felt about them until the point at which she regains sanity.
Of course, I’m a guy so I could be wrong on this. And being a guy, shall I broach a possible guy version of the irrational actions? Now, I”m not convinced this is a completely accurate parallel, but let’s work through this together, shall we? This is built around the phrase “I’m not mad at you- I’m mad at the situation.” Is this recognizable as a commonly spoken phrase from a male figure in your life? If so, he is exhibiting some basic traits accorded to the Irrational Button. When this phrase is spoken, the speaker earnestly believes their own words. Basically what happends is that a man gets into a situation he dislikes by actions involving his own and others’ actions. If he feels he has no solution and no one he is willing to place blame on, he gets frustrated. So others see him get frustrated and assume it’s because of their actions, which actually may have contributed but not necessarily. When asked some probing question like ‘are you angry,’ he will most likely respond per the above-mentioned phrase.
If you are the recipient of such a message, please accept at face value. This male, if pushed to explain his feelings, will get more annoyed because he’s fighting his own feelings. Therefore, by pushing these to the forefront of his mind while he fights to cordon off his emotions and head into his cave will, at some point, create a loss of emotional control unless checked. This break down will be similar to the Irrational Button, but likely with less words and more senseless violence done to furniture, self or unforgiving walls.
Please note that asking his to ‘talk it out’ does not provide aid. A much more effective choice would be to isolate this person from others and allow to brood in his cave alone until his accepts the current situation.
So that’s all I’ve got on that. Let me know how accurate I am. And that’s all I’m writing about. So much for the hodgepodge.